Tuesday, September 11, 2012

This is Her World Too





 Union Ministry of Women and Child Development  is now busy planning a draft Bill that would allow housewives to have a monthly income from their husbands.

Just like any other woman, I also wish the bill will get implemented. I am sure that this news should have a soothing effect on all the women in India, though the “gentlemen” feel the other way. 

According to the patriarchal system, it’s a usual scene in almost all families, which, woman who is doing all the household work, day and night are jobless. At the end of the day, they are supposed to hear the question “what are you doing, sitting at home... is it a work?” OK guys did you ever try to put yourself into her shoes?

Though it says that, we are living in a modern society, and the both genders are having equal rights, both of them are equally earning to sustain their family, how many men are there around us who really helps their wives after her long office hours? Though there are men who believe and understand their wives as human being and help her out, still majority are in the same patriarchal boat.  Helping his wife in kitchen, and household works are strictly prohibited areas for him. What will happen, if she tries to make him understand it? Here is his answer- “I never had seen my mother taking any help from my dad... All this are woman’s work, her monarchy, that too without this much facilities she has managed .You are too lazy to do that’s all” What a fantastic answer! 

Brother, the time is up to renew your thinking. Woman is no more a slave, gone are those days where we have seen, she eat food only after him. While the man have rice with curries woman adjust herself with dried tapioca and black tea without sugar. She adjusted herself and made him happy and instead of giving her happiness he took it as a chance to dominate over her, made her more or less a slave.

Now here we arrived at a transformation in the way of thinking- she is not a free cook, and don’t take her for granted.  I know, most of the men cannot accept it, and they may add excuses that this cannot improve a woman’s situation and it doesn’t make any sense on paying them off, and it may destroy the holiness of marriage or this law is trying to involve money in relationships. But there are so many women struggling with irresponsible husbands, who never care about her and treat her as a servant. In such scenarios, this decision of the Ministry on woman empowerment would be most welcoming if it gets approved, if not at least this may open the eyes of gentlemen.